Practice & Develop a Strong Healthy Habit of Gratitude

I’m not a billionaire.  I’m assuredly not the financial equivalent of a Tiger Woods or a Bill Gates. Despite this fact, establishing a regular practice of being, thinking, and then feeling grateful for those things that life does give up, is well, crucial to feeling happy.

It’s too easy to allow ourselves to think good thoughts only when positively evaluating our situations is effortless. But this is no way to lead life. Happiness is elusive enough. At times I get down on myself despite the great life I have. I have struggled to find ways to shake off the negativity of self-loathing, self-pity and generally depressive feelings that plagued me as a young man. Later, I looked for strategies and tools that would help me to keep my thinking right and not focus on what I don’t have.


Fresh-Perspective-on-GratitudeI know its fashionable to conceive of ourselves as hunters. Many of us believe that we go out and get things, bring them home, and then we own them. We can do what we want with them. We have freedom.

As a mental model, this thinking falls short and leaves us feeling bad unless we are always 100% successful. It may be more efficacious to our own emotional state to focus on what life actually provides. Life gives stuff to us even though we still have to put out an effort to receive them. You know, “all in.” Seriously engaging in our lives may not necessarily equate with hunting things down. Perhaps engaging in life is akin to “awareness” or a meditative state. It may be an important distinction to remember.

Ultimately, I think we’re considering a certain quality of “energy” and how to cultivate it. As mental models go, this concept of energy may be broader and more potent than a focus on money and material possessions. Consider the type or quality of energy we are aligning with and perpetuating by “hunting” and compare it to the gentler, more appreciative energy of feeling grateful for those things that life quietly gives up.

Again, it’s comparatively valuable to the quality of our own experience. What is the emotional climate you are creating?

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As an Executive coach and licensed Psychologist, I assist professionals, individual entrepreneurs, and corporate clients with interests and challenges related to personal and professional leadership. Posts reflect client concerns and actions. You don't need to be an executive to secure coaching for yourself, but you should have a degree of ambition. Strategizing on how your career or life might improve and move forward takes time for reflection, either on your own or through dialogue. Opportunity is required to reflect well upon new and detailed information regarding your strengths and weaknesses. Sound consideration leads to a strategy that produces informed action, which precedes success. Wear your strengths like a badge of honor, and be cautious of areas you may tend to error in.

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