Practicing Self-care

The distinction between self-care and extreme self-care is discernable based upon the lengths of our efforts. Self-care is not the same thing as getting our needs met. Extreme self-care is more commonly recognized and understood these days as “emotional intelligence.”

Necessity of Self-care

I am a writer. Oh, not the Pulitzer prize-winning type of writer, but the kind of writer that is on a journey. A transformative journey at that. And writing is the tool that I try to wield, hoping it will help me to move through and evolve in this journey. Writing is also therapeutic and I believe it to be more potent than any therapy you’ll ever find.

Though I might hate to admit it, there was a time I felt isolated and alone. Worse yet, I escaped incarceration by a narrow margin, for holding a recreational drug that is now legal. Although commonplace, strictly speaking, this was a mental health issue—a behavioral problem. And I’m not even sure how it happened.

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Individuation

As a young man, I made the decision to leave the support of my family and friends to move to a larger city and escape the looming tragedy that seemed to be hunting me down. It seemed to be the obvious and right decision to make at the time. But later, it turned out to be problematic anyway. My situation might have made me fearful, but by taking a narrow view and only considering myself, I simultaneously marginalized others by my lack of consideration for their feelings.

Regardless of where we live on this planet, at a certain age, we routinely pull away from our families. We need to assert a higher degree of freedom and autonomy in our lives. At that particular time of life, I definitely had more concern for myself than I had empathy for others. Perhaps this is understandable. In retrospect, I could have made the transition to my new home more palatable for everyone. That might have been a more successful reflection of extreme self-care.

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Extreme Self-Care

To reiterate, demonstrating more concern for family and friends would have likely made things easier for me, but I just didn’t realize it at the time. Extreme self-care encompasses self-care and is also about how well we treat others. It includes caring for those closest to us. When they are hurt, we will feel it too. I suppose that I’m urging you to develop a broader sense of who you see yourself to be – your “identity.”

Self-care, of course, is critical to anyone’s success. Our goal may be to feel happier, more confident, reduce unwanted feelings of stress, anxiety, or depression. Even if our mission is more aspirational in nature, don’t neglect yourself or those around you. Practicing extreme self-care will increase the probability of accomplishing our desires and getting our needs met.

Meditation is an essential component of my personal self-care routine. When we add professional consultations to our life, that can now be “extreme self-care,” too. Consultations will likely include emotional exploration, supportive strategy sessions, and psychological assessments. They will illuminate our personal strengths and unveil opportunities. They will also provide us with fresh new potential for creating an enhanced life vision, which will undoubtedly include others.

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Self-care Routines

First of all, self-care does not imply that you drop all of your responsibilities and focus on yourself, exclusively. It doesn’t mean that you have to practice an unusually high number of “other-focused” activities, either. Self-care does not necessarily refer to ensuring that you are working hard. It does not naturally mean that you hang with your friends several times a week.

Spending some time reflecting or meditating upon the number of responsibilities you’ve taken on is helpful. Also, reflect on the percentage of your week you spend on fun and meaningful activities. Then focus on how much support you experience from family and friends. These are all essential.

Also essential is cultivating a new degree of depth to your thinking. Concern yourself with your goals. Have an “ideal vision” for your future. Aim to achieve what’s important to you – such as a peaceful existence, love, and harmony – and not merely money or material wealth as a substitution. Meditation can assist you with this.

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Balancing your various interests is valuable, of course. Even more crucial is managing your thoughts, beliefs, expectations, and general understandings about your goals and objectives. Consider the emotional states that exerting effort toward each of these generates? This is definitely where working with a senior Psychologist will prove invaluable.

A Dynamic Process & Self-care Practices

Consider more than just your most immediate goal. Self-care is a dynamic process, more complicated than just having a bubble bath, letting yourself go fishing on Saturday or even pulling an all-nighter. The choices that we have and the decisions we make require guidance. We need a rudder or a vision that we allow to direct our decision-making process.

Have a plan or focus on a bigger picture that can be assembled over time. An ideal situation that we – little by little – bring into life through the utilization of our imagination and efforts. Practice emotional intelligence skills, such as empathy for ourselves and others.

Mental-ObstaclesHere’s a valuable exercise. Recall an exceptional moment in time you’ve experienced. Alternatively, imagine one. Now, with those same remarkable feelings awakened, apply them to your current goals and projects.

Often one of the most significant hurdles that we need to learn to overcome lives within our minds. Self-confidence is vital to all of us. Perhaps we have not yet realized our strength and power. Do you see yourself as a responsible contributor to your interpersonal environment? Or do you see yourself as a tourist? One perspective is empowering. The other creates victimhood.

Strategic Ingredients of Selfcare Routines

Think of your mind as being similar to a cake that you want to bake. It is reasonable to assume that you have endured and suffered enough over the years. You have paid for any mistakes that you’ve made early on in life. You have learned from your experiences.

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Now design your personal strategy for your life, for this cake you want to bake. It should be founded on the knowledge of both your strengths and vulnerabilities. What have your experiences led you to believe about the meaning of your life? Add what you are good at and allows you to feel good. Eliminate the rest. Build-in action plans to address your specific tastes and the tastes of those you want to share life with. This may just be what it means to be “on point,” emotionally.

Balancing the Ingredients of Life

None of us are perfect. We all struggle with balancing the ingredients of life. Encountering our own inner argumentative dialogue that says “this is who we are” and means bad, negative, incapable, isn’t an easy experience.

We need to make our thoughts, beliefs, and expectations work for us, not against us. Use meditation to see yourself in a new way. Consult your counselor. Start to feel robust and capable of extreme self-care. Then life can begin to turn in your favor.

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Start to see your personal evolution. Notice how your career has evolved. Recognize that you are respected. Make a note of your capabilities. Begin a victory list and review it, daily. Identify meaningful things that you are involved in. Make a list of your family, social circle, clubs, or organizations. Cultivate the missing link to your happiness and your accomplishments. These activities also represent the process of extreme self-care.

Taking Care of  Yourself? Where to Begin?

I’ve been considering for many years now, my “inner leader,” “inner child,” and even my “inner therapist.” Using our minds to review our thoughts – not just to think them – may be a somewhat new concept for a few. However, how we feel and the ideas that run through our minds, are not solely neutral. They are not just a course of nature or a reflection of our biology. Realize that it’s our inner minds that hold power for us, not our neurons.

Through extreme self-care, we come to know ourselves. We learn to realize the power we have to cultivate how we think. Examine our beliefs, expectations, the actions we take, and their impact on others. Ultimately, how we feel is in our control. Our emotional zone can give rise to our best.

Extreme Self-careLearning about self-care and extreme self-care has been an essential aspect of my personal journey in life. It ultimately addresses and has created a solution for my feeling isolated and alone. From time to time, I still forget myself, and it causes me pain and discomfort again. At other times, I ignore those most important to me, and that too causes me pain and discomfort.

The Right Decision

Extreme self-care is not merely a set of skills. They’re not to be memorized and forgotten but are an inherently valuable part of personal discipline. It has been an issue of creating a new, fresh lifestyle. One that assists me to balance my inner drives with my emotional needs. The skills of self-care reflect my daily discipline of meditation.

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Consider starting today and making extreme self-care work for you, too. The results can last forever. Perfect the process of extreme self-care. Engage with your Psychologist and introduce your desires and your needs to the power of your personal strengths.

Super-States

An enhanced life vision evolves from a strong identity. It develops from our imagination’s efforts at discovering or coming to realize our purpose. Our purpose, as I define it, is a sweet spot.

What we value intersects with our passions, beliefs, and what’s best for all of us – the greater good. But this “super-state” must involve texturing our mind. It must bolster our efforts at developing what’s significant and meaningful to us and cultivating the Good Life. Reading, writing, and meditation continue to be a foundational part of my process.

Any thoughts?

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As an Executive coach and licensed Psychologist, I assist professionals, individual entrepreneurs, and corporate clients with interests and challenges related to personal and professional leadership. Posts reflect client concerns and actions. You don't need to be an executive to secure coaching for yourself, but you should have a degree of ambition. Strategizing on how your career or life might improve and move forward takes time for reflection, either on your own or through dialogue. Opportunity is required to reflect well upon new and detailed information regarding your strengths and weaknesses. Sound consideration leads to a strategy that produces informed action, which precedes success. Wear your strengths like a badge of honor, and be cautious of areas you may tend to error in.

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