There is a great deal going on just below the surface
The first time I experienced snorkeling was on my honeymoon, 1999. If my memory serves, I enjoyed myself. Like millions before me, I also got a sunburn on my back. I took a day off to recover a little and went back almost every day afterward. The fish were colorful, moreover, amazed me with their designs. Of course, I had seen fish in aquariums, but until I had seen them myself in the wild; until I put myself into the experience itself to see and feel what was there just below the surface, well. There simply was nothing like having the experience for myself.
In our daily lives, we are continuously creating, experiencing, and emanating emotional energy. A public speaker deliberately creates positive and upbeat energy or excitement. A physician deliberately creates a calm and steady feeling to reassure her patients. Both act with purpose and with care for their audience. Our individual thoughts and behaviors influence the energy’s emotional quality that we create, experience, and emanate. Words, actions, and quality of our relationships reflect the energy that emanates, that others feel and respond to – meaning? What we allow to go on inside our heads produces our words, determines our actions and the quality of our relationships, maybe even the quality of our lives. Ultimately, we are “emotional energy producing beings.”
Look below the surface – It can be beautiful
We also experience this emotional energy or vibration in our bodies. We feel it physically. Commonly as stress or pain. We sense it in our moods, emotionally, as anger and frustration; and our thoughts plus actions fill out the experience for us. The thought “I am looking forward to our meeting” creates fond feelings of anticipation, a confident smile, tall, erect posture and a quick step to our walk. “I am probably going to get fired at my meeting this afternoon” potentially creates an anxious and fearful sense of dread, plus a slump in posture, a sad face, and a slower walk. The meeting itself does not change at all. With focus, effort, and practice, we can learn to influence the thoughts we have. We can emulate the same sort of power that both the physician and the motivational speaker employs. Just like controlling which program is running on our computer, we need to be in charge of which thoughts, beliefs, and expectations we allow to run. This can require practice as the thoughts we permit should be authentic.
Various activities can help align us or tune us into the underlying emotional world that already exists and that we may want to alter or influence. I have a preference for meditative practice. I sit in a comfortable and quiet location, close my eyes and often enough, the first sensation that comes to my awareness is that I feel a little off balance. Like a tall skyscraper, swaying in a strong breeze. I simply focus on this image and feeling (and this is a essential point) without judgment, just awareness and knowing. The knowing is that “this too shall pass,” and so it does.
My business, as a Psychologist, involves “transitions”
The transition begins as I control the speed of my breathing. Then I insist that the pace of my thoughts match my breathing and also slow down. This process seems to make room for and allow simple, creative, positive thoughts to enter my mind. If it’s a struggle, enlist the assistance of your Psychologist. This process has assisted me by subsequently creating a reassuring feeling. I like to think that I am aligning myself with all things in nature, with all others and their emotions. I sometimes feel the beating of my heart, but this meditative process always calms me down. Over the years, I have come to confidently expect that the meditative process, will consistently provide just this type of result. In essence, I transition from feeling “a little off balance” toward a new desired feeling of “calm confidence.” I’ve been reassured by the emotions that the process itself creates. I have moved along a continuum.
One more way that can help you to get just below the surface is to focus your awareness and thoughts on the meaning that you believe is attached to whatever particular thought that crosses your mind. Discuss or reflect on your own past decisions and actions and tease out the meaning and purpose of what you did and your personal reason for doing so. Personal reflection is an excellent way to cultivate meaning and purpose in life. It can provide us with a rudder that assists us with our daily decisions. Just be clear that meditation and personal reflection are not the same processes, they are at two different ends of a continuum. Try one or the other, but not together.
Don’t be surprised. I told you there is a lot going on just below the surface and we can influence those things through the utilization of our focused attention. As a result, the energy that we and others experience is changed to something efficient and productive. Just like the physician and the motivational speaker, we can do it too! We have more influence over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors than we think. The emotional vibrations that I can feel when I sit quietly in a meditative practice influences or regulates how I think, feel and act later. It’s not a one to one relationship of control, but the energy I expend is, well, it’s worth the effort.