I don’t know about you, but sometimes I just feel sad and lonely. Down, dejected, and hopeless. Upon further reflection I remember what I should be doing to make myself feel better, but, now and again I rightly feel as though the energy it would take just isn’t worth it. At these times I assume that feeling the way I do is preferable, perhaps even beneficial to the alternative. I don’t feel like pushing myself to go to the gym or for a run, to participate in life at all.
This is the first step of recovery. The starting place that will bring back self-confidence, clear thoughts, and healthy decision-making. Ultimately, ours’ is an ability to influence. Where strategy for life lives. Once we begin to think of ourselves in this way – as influencing others – we then start looking at the impact we’re having. The way we are influencing. At this very point, our lives begin to change.
Worry, and self-loathing will have to come second to this newly evolving power and responsibility you have regarding how you influence. It feels good already, just considering life from a new angle. You can’t allow yourself to feel hopeless and dejected. Others are depending upon you. Your energy is what gets things done and lifts others so they can achieve.
This way of attacking life should be something that is actively robust in my life, every day.
But I’m one of those guys that just can’t have too many shirts, and so I make a lot of decisions spontaneously, impulsively. But what if I’m hoping to buy a new Lexus in the spring? Or I’m looking forward to a romantic vacation with my spouse on the Mexican Riviera this March. Well maybe I can have them all and perhaps I cannot. What’s directing your life?
One thing is for sure, that whatever we want from life, if we don’t stop to plan and reflect upon our more long-term goals, we’re more likely to end up pushing them further away, substituting them with short-term immediate gratification. Living life spontaneously, responding to the day to day pressures of life, we don’t stop to plan, days come and go, and we wonder why life is the way it is. I may have a closet full of shirts, but I’m driving a 10-year-old Civic, plus I’m getting flabby around the waste and feeling miserable about life.
The fact is, we all strategize, even if at a subconscious level. Perhaps we should be more careful of how unconscious decisions are affecting our lives. Maybe also give “time for reflection” a modicum of respect by adding it to our weekly agenda. I’d like to remind us all – and especially myself – to consider creating regular opportunities to discuss and reflect. If we’re not slowing down, actively gaining control over or deliberately instituting positive goals, beliefs, and expectations into our psyche, maybe we’re really living a life of unconsidered habits, evolving in a way directed by our short-term urges, impulses, and not our well thought out plans. Be cautious, for one day your future may come calling, and you may not like what it has to say, or how you feel. That’s what I’m going through right this moment.
So is there any good reason why we don’t devote some regularly scheduled time and effort to increasing our level of conscious awareness of our individual strategies?
Let’s get things going in our favor. Let’s make things happen. Let’s change the direction of lives so that they’re unfolding in our direction. Let’s experience more joy, better connections. Let’s explore, feel proud of our lives and of what we’re creating and what we’re contributing. Because we cannot, not participate.
What if we both had all the time we needed to talk and reflect upon our own personal strategies?